January 12, 2012

Hair and old age

Lately I've lost my focus - at least my focus on the things I should be focusing on. Like life in my household. My husband. Things I need to be doing. Like finishing the novel I'm working on. I work everyday but not as much as I should. I'm busy focusing on, well see below.

My focus entirely is on a spot in my head where I'm losing hair.

You heard right. I have one small spot on the right side of my head, in the exact position where my head hits the pillow every night.

I can't get my focus off  that one spot. Wondering why I have it, how I got it. What to do about it. Questioning, will it get worse. Am I doomed to lose all my hair at this young age. Well, not so young but who wants to have a bald spot right on the side of their head at any age?

So instead of doing more important work, I think about remedies for my "balding" spot. Sure I can still cover it with hair. Am I going to be like those old guys who do comb overs? I hope not.  It's not entirely bald in that one spot either for which I am eternally grateful. I spend time in shops looking at hair products. Right now I'm using a shampoo for thinning hair. Don't know if it's helping but my hair smells wonderful, sort of a minty scent.

When we go out as we do most days, I have to ask R if my "spot" is covered. I drive him nuts checking my head. He always says yes yes yes. I know he's trying to appease me. And he always says my hair looks nice but can you trust a man you've been married to for 49 years? He's prejudiced. He still sees me as the young girl  he married, with loads of hair and a bounce in my step. Yeah yeah yeah.

I'm slowly driving myself wild with this hair thing. (Him too!) I've tried sleeping in other positions but no matter how I fall asleep in the middle of the night I'm back on that one spot, grinding the heck out of it. I'm a restless sleeper. I thought of wearing some kind of head gear but not sure that would be comfy. My mother wore a silk sleep cap. She was sure it kept her hair style nice for a longer period of time. I'm not sure but I did love seeing her in her pajamas and that funny sleep cap.

My husband wants me to go with the sleep cap. He remembers my mother's. I don't think that is the answer. I think the answer is to stop grinding my head against the pillow. I grind my teeth too. I wear a mouth guard.

Do they make any such thing as a head guard to keep one from grinding one's head on the pillow at night?

Who knows. My goal today is not to focus on my head, hair, bald spot. Myself in general.

I did do something the other day that has perhaps helped a bit. I did a home color job- semi permanent, a rinse on. I picked out a nice brown shade. It went on my head jet black. R was talking to our little granddaughter and he told her Nan was  painting her hair black and that had her worried. I had to assure her that was not true.

When I washed the color off my hair was dark auburn. For those who know me - auburn is not a color I've ever had. But it's different and I don't notice the spot as much. The color treatment itself has made my hair fluffier. Or is that all in my mind? No, I just tossed my head and it is indeed fluffier.

I'm off here to get my mind back on my novel. I have miles to go before I sleep. How about you, do you have some things you focus on that are not all that important in the grand scheme of things?

Here's to a great day. Blessings!

17 comments:

  1. Two recommendations:

    Try the shampoo Nioxin. It's for thinning hair. Go to website Nioxin.com

    Secondly, I'd wear the hair cap. Then your hair won't break off when you sleep. My mom used to wrap toilet paper around her head at night to protect her "hairdo". In the morning her hair was perfect!

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  2. Ohmigosh we must have been separated at birth! I will focus on something just like this and not let go..to the point of obsession..and yes, after almost 30 years of marriage (this Aug) I don't trust my husband not to tell me just what I want to hear..so I ask my mom..or my teen-age son..now that's veracity for ya!

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  3. I feel your pain. I have the same problem, and I lost my eyebrows! I think losing the eyebrows is the worse part.

    I've heard the only thing that works is Minoxidil. I've not tried it - yet.

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  4. I will try the hair cap. My adult daughters will fall on the floor laughing. I can laugh too as I know they'll someday head this way! Kids will always tell you the truth. Although I honestly think R believes I look good no matter how I look. I'll get out of bed in the morning looking like my hair went through a mixer and he'll say something about how nice I look. I think we're both a bit unhinged the older we get. Thanks for the great comments. I'm babying the eyebrows. They are not doing well either. God bless us all.

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  5. I have the Sally's brand Nioxin and it's helping some already. Thanks for that tip, Pat.
    Let's all take better care of us.

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  6. Loved reading this, & remembering Mamaw Ollie's sleep cap... I can still hear her rolling down the hall early in the morning in her wheelchair. Her wedding ring clanging on the metal wheel...I say if the sleep cap helps, I'm all for it! I hate to say it but at 37 I'm feeling my age and shouldn't be already! Your hair always looks nice. Love you Mom!!

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  7. After abusing my hair for ten years ( once a year) withcommercial hair colours, I came to an understanding that gray is better than no hair. Like you daughter says your hair must look nice !
    So don't worry. My ER lady thinks that my gray hir make gray hair customers feel comfortable.

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  8. I'm not sure how comfortable it'll be sleeping in a cap, so I have another suggestion. Have you ever tried satin pillow cases? They work well for not mussing hairdos while you sleep, (I used to use them years ago when I actually had some semblance of a "do") so they might help with your problem, as well.

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  9. In the South, we grew up always hearing about sleeping with silk pillow cases...makes it more difficult for the hair to be against rough texture and caught to tear out.

    I just found your blog and enjoyed reading!

    Lana

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  10. Many thanks for all the tips. I'm going to try them all.
    Here's to a good night's rest and no worry about hair.
    Jeez. I need to grow up. Yes, gray hair is good too.

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  11. Have you had a checkup to make sure you don't have a thyroid problem or something else that would make your hair thinner? Coloring does make your hair look and feel fuller...hope you find a happy solution!

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  12. Yes, I'm under a dr.s care but thanks. I'm taking loads of supplements for my health. I was put to sleep three times recently and the meds for that often make hair come out. WHo knows?
    Many thanks.

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  13. Hi Barb, I think you could write a good story out of all this. It sounds like you have got a lot of good suggestions, I will have to remember them if I ever get that problem. And, knowing me, I probably will sooner or later. Have a nice weekend. Hope to see you in June.

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  14. Everytime I get my hair highlighted it makes it feel thicker--that's probably what happened to you. Have you been medically checked out as certain illnesses result in hair loss I've heard. OOps--just read your comment above:)

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  15. Try a silk (or satin) pillow case, Barb. It's supposed to ease the stress on your hair and skin:) Oh, I see some of the gals mentioned that already. I was going to say Nioxin too, but that's been covered also. Wow! Everyone's on the (hair) ball. Sorry. Couldn't resist:)

    And me? I ALWAYS have focus problems. I too need to be working on the ms. But blog jumping is more fun:)

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  16. I hope one of these remedies work soon for you so that your focus can return to your craft ... I like Janet's idea, too, to make a story out of this!

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