I haven't been on here for awhile because of issues beyond my control. BUT I've missed blogging and my blogger friends. Hope all is well with you!
I made a quick trip to Tampa recently to visit my sister "Sue" who was quite ill and in the hospital as well.
We were able to have five days together before I had to leave. While I knew she was gravely ill, we shared many light moments and many moments that we were just big sister and little, hugging and giving each other advice. She wanted to take me shopping while I was there, she said, "To buy you something pretty." My sister had perfected the art of shopping like no other human I know. She could tell you which was the very best mattress to buy. What household applicance would outlast all others and first and foremost she could tell you where the best clothes for women could be purchased in the very latest styles. She had one of each item in her closet.
I borrowed a beautiful white cardigan one day to wear to the hospital over a thin shirt because I often got chilled while there. When I entered her room she admired the sweater and said I believe I have one just like it. I said I believe this one is yours. Oh, she said. Well take it home. Nope, I said you might need it. She insisted I take it and I did. So I'm wearing it this week in her honor to keep off the chill of the rainy Ohio day as I read her obituary.
She was and will always be my special sister. She baby sat me from when I was six to about eleven. She looked out for me, loaned me her clothes, made sure I was all right while our mom worked.
We had a step dad but he was often gone, working shift work in the local plant.
I'll miss her for many reasons but the one most outstanding is that I'm not sure anyone will ever love me again as she did, unconditionally. She thought I was perfect. How many of us have a person in our lives like this?
Here's the poem I wrote for her birthday one year.
Oh, Donna Dear, your Birthday's here,
Whatever shall I do? Dance without shoes?
Sing you the Blues? But, ugh, those reviews!
You're near to my heart, Sister. You gave me my start.
So here's a poem-present and I hope your day's pleasant.
I'll start with, "I love you, but, will that do,
For a sister who loaned me her white buck shoes,
And her very last bottle of Halo Shampoo?
You danced and twirled and my straight hair you curled.
A black-eyed beauty, you took serious this sister-duty,
While I spent my days in a summer haze
You walked us through that sister-maze.
Can you remember the smell of that sweet clover?
"Red Rover, Red Rover, Send my sister, Donna, on over!"
Oh, to spend one more day of my youth with you.
We'd even invite cousin Anna and cousin Sue.
For old times sake, fudge and popcorn we'd make.
And, to the Boogie Man an iron skillet I'd take!
Maybe we'll never make it to the moon,
But can you come over real ... uh, ... how do you spell SOON?
In memory of my aggravating ways
And our letter-writing days.
I love you still.
I always will.
Your Little Sister, Bobbie
Obituary of Donna Sue Hoffman
Donna Sue Hoffman, 73, of Sun City Center, FL went home to be with the Lord May 3, 2013.
She was born in Beaver, WV to the late Cecil and Ollie Null (Bailey), and raised in Putnam County. Donna was a homemaker and a member of the First Baptist Church of Ruskin, FL.
She is preceded in death by her sister, Maxine Snodgrass, and brother, Ralph Null.
is survived by her loving husband of 57 years, Mr. James "Brownie"
Hoffman; daughters Deborah Kay Stegner and Teresa Ann Vollmer; sisters
Ella Warren and Barbara Whittington; grandsons Kenny and Kevin Grantham,
and special family friend John Zuchowski. She leaves to cherish her
memory many nieces and nephews.
A tribute to her life will be 2:00
pm, Friday, May 10, 2013 at Gatens-Harding Funeral Home Chapel with
Pastor Delbert Hawley officiating. Burial will follow in Walker Chapel
Cemetery. The family will receive friends 6 to 8 pm Thursday at the funeral home.
In lieu of flowers the family suggests donations to Life Path Hospice, 3725 Upper Creek Drive, Ruskin, FL 33573.
Rest in peace dear Susie and hold a place at the supper table for me. I'll be along one day...